I like the idea of mental foreplay. Like flirting but with intent. Shared purpose. That’s the motivation behind “date night” for us married folks. But habits and routine root too deep for fireworks. Maybe some sparklers.
Haha omg this was an excellent read. Yes, the mental foreplay… a distant memory for me at this point… I’ve been married for over decade lol. But yes, yes, I remember it! 😏
ha. glad you enjoyed. like your article -it was so charlotte of me w the granny panties. samantha would have worn black lace, or nothing, and had him that night.
I like your stuff—this one especially. It’s fun, sharp, layered… and yeah, you nailed it: mental foreplay, the brain-first seduction. That rich, maddening space where nothing happens but everything does. Felt like I was right there at the table watching both of you think too loud.
Which brings me to a question—are you a sapiophile? (Or just an expert at writing like one?) Either way, I think you’ll get a kick out of something I wrote—it’s called Sensual Intelligence. It walks the same line: the space between thought and touch, between appetite and restraint. Not quite seduction without words… more like thoughts with teeth.
Let me know if you want to read it—I think it fits your essay like a wink across the table.
Good writing. I’m familiar with that part of Mexico, you took us there. Your writing is real, and so self deprecating, come on, we know you’re awesome.
Very enjoyable, thank you. I remember some of those goings on but by 25 I was out of the game and so never really developed much of that skill set. It is interesting to hear how things go these days and your writing is tip top.
I got a good solid start, had a well balanced game, worked diligently in the arena but when I met my Laurita, only a fool would look further. I knew instinctively that that game of hearts was inherently risky for someone like me. Thanks for reading, Bouge.
Fantastic read BH, thank you for sharing and introducing me to your work. Oddly, my piece today is a bit off topic for me, and relates to this, Great writing!
Okay hold UP—Cyn, girl. This was so deliciously written I almost lit a candle and poured a glass of wine just to finish reading it. 🕯️🍷 The look?? The cerebral couch?? The slow cake seduction?? ICONIC. Honestly, I need your brain on a podcast, an audiobook, a TED Talk—SOMETHING. We’re out here spiraling over the same stuff, just not this glamorously. Keep spilling, queen. 💅🧠✨
Wait, what? You lived here? When? Do we know each other?
Yes, for sure I’ll go out with him again as you know there’s few guys younger than retired aged here! Baha. Just waiting for him to get off his ass and ask me out again. He will but he’ll roll slow. Hopefully. If he jumps too fast I’ll get bored.
No was before I got married, so a bit back in the day! But I feel we would have had too much fun if we lived there at the same time! haha gotta love a bit of a chase!
Okay, I swear I didn't want to self-promote but when you said this: "I realized: this is foreplay." I just thought... I wrote about this...
https://caerivas.substack.com/p/barely-flirting
Hahaha, you be the judge...
oooh it's so good. same kind of witty tone i love.
you have my full attention Morales. 😍
I'm flattered.
But let's not take away from how great your piece was. The narration was clever and the internal dialogue was funny and felt so realistic.
Thanks for sharing it and thanks for reading mine! 😊😉
Mercy, I need a cold shower.
bahaha
Love this!
I like the idea of mental foreplay. Like flirting but with intent. Shared purpose. That’s the motivation behind “date night” for us married folks. But habits and routine root too deep for fireworks. Maybe some sparklers.
Spa playlist, candles, string lights… and some other things. 🤫 🤪
oooh so glad you do a date night. keeps the romance flaming. sparklers are good…at least some candles I hope :D
Spa playlist, candles, string lights… and some other things. 🤫
Haha omg this was an excellent read. Yes, the mental foreplay… a distant memory for me at this point… I’ve been married for over decade lol. But yes, yes, I remember it! 😏
is it weird I can’t wait to find out what happens next?
Im really trying not to kiss and tell in case he one day reads this but… we’re flying to the beach for a staycation tmrw 🫢
cool, good luck!
this is so addictive omg!! and your metaphors are just amazing
hahaha that’s so right, i did think of that when i reached that part
ha. glad you enjoyed. like your article -it was so charlotte of me w the granny panties. samantha would have worn black lace, or nothing, and had him that night.
Hey Cyn,
I like your stuff—this one especially. It’s fun, sharp, layered… and yeah, you nailed it: mental foreplay, the brain-first seduction. That rich, maddening space where nothing happens but everything does. Felt like I was right there at the table watching both of you think too loud.
Which brings me to a question—are you a sapiophile? (Or just an expert at writing like one?) Either way, I think you’ll get a kick out of something I wrote—it’s called Sensual Intelligence. It walks the same line: the space between thought and touch, between appetite and restraint. Not quite seduction without words… more like thoughts with teeth.
Let me know if you want to read it—I think it fits your essay like a wink across the table.
Mark
i had to look up what a sapiophile means as i've never heard of it. omg i didn't know there was a word for exactly what i am, you nailed it:
A sapiophile is one whose romantic attraction to others is primarily based on intelligence.
I see your post Sensual intelligence, i'll read in a bit and comment there.
https://substack.com/@adhdt1dm/p-161169473
I also see so many good ones i want to sink my teeth into like this one:
Spiralville: A Neurodivergent Manifesto
https://substack.com/@adhdt1dm/p-161726782
Good writing. I’m familiar with that part of Mexico, you took us there. Your writing is real, and so self deprecating, come on, we know you’re awesome.
Hey, maybe this story has a part II ?
Haha. I don’t kiss and tell.
But yeah, I’ve started one on the drafts… 🫦
Very enjoyable, thank you. I remember some of those goings on but by 25 I was out of the game and so never really developed much of that skill set. It is interesting to hear how things go these days and your writing is tip top.
Thanks Weston. 25 and out of the game? That’s very young. x
I got a good solid start, had a well balanced game, worked diligently in the arena but when I met my Laurita, only a fool would look further. I knew instinctively that that game of hearts was inherently risky for someone like me. Thanks for reading, Bouge.
I don’t know what’s funnier about this…
How twitchy it reads, or how accurate all that date-monkey-chatter you’ve captured, actually is
I guess we’ll see Wolf. And what the fuck are you still doing up at this hour.
I might ask you the same question
For my part, I’m composing a beautiful tragedy out of tin cans and nostalgia
Right back at ya
Nice visual
I can’t stop giggling and laughing while reading it lol I'm so excited. Can’t wait to see how things will turn out between you two!
That’s the real for play these days. The build up , the respect , the trust , oh it goes so much deeper. Deeper you say?! Yes deeper.
Fantastic read BH, thank you for sharing and introducing me to your work. Oddly, my piece today is a bit off topic for me, and relates to this, Great writing!
Ooooh I’m starting to ready your new one now. I’m gonna like this…
Okay hold UP—Cyn, girl. This was so deliciously written I almost lit a candle and poured a glass of wine just to finish reading it. 🕯️🍷 The look?? The cerebral couch?? The slow cake seduction?? ICONIC. Honestly, I need your brain on a podcast, an audiobook, a TED Talk—SOMETHING. We’re out here spiraling over the same stuff, just not this glamorously. Keep spilling, queen. 💅🧠✨
Yes! When is your podcast? Don’t stop the train on the Podcast!!
Omg I used to live in San Miguel de Allende! I love a man with good banter, glad he passed the vibe check. Will you do another?
Wait, what? You lived here? When? Do we know each other?
Yes, for sure I’ll go out with him again as you know there’s few guys younger than retired aged here! Baha. Just waiting for him to get off his ass and ask me out again. He will but he’ll roll slow. Hopefully. If he jumps too fast I’ll get bored.
No was before I got married, so a bit back in the day! But I feel we would have had too much fun if we lived there at the same time! haha gotta love a bit of a chase!
Oh for sure. It would have been party on 🎉 at its finest